Raising Your Expectations

You are always capable of creating miracles. As long as you know it and believe it. Always.
Today, raise your expectations. Be open to all possibilities. Always. (Yehuda Berg)

Right now I would like to put this in the context of the possibilites for change and growth in your personal relationships (albeit love, family, work, friendship, colleagues).

We are often afraid to change our interactions because we are not sure how else to be, or not comfortable with our own genuineness. There is an essential truth taught to therapsits which continually plays out in therapy. That is that if one person changes their behavior/interactions the whole system will change. Yes, we can run back to fear, but on the other hand, we can embrace the sacred change of allowing ourselves to speak and be who we truly are by nature. Basically, ask yourself "am I comfortable or uncomfortable with this request or interaction? Start by saying it silently to yourself, until you have practiced enough to say it out loud. Such a blissful freedom to release those words, "No, I won't be comfortable with that", no explaination necessary. People will know they can trust you whether or not they are pleased with your response. It is letting go of the fear of rejection that is biggest here. If others only want you for pleasing their needs, I beleive that is called fostering dependence being "Co-dependent". Enough about labels, you will feel self respect and you will have earned the respect of others. They will essentially have to change their interactions with you for the better, unless they are all about using, and in that case they will simply leave you alone. So today, why not raise your expectations for yourself, others will follow the best they can.

Best to You,

Carol Cole